I went from wanting sex constantly to wanting none at all. The desire spectrum is real — and you’re not broken.
Some years I couldn’t get enough. Other years the thought of being touched made me recoil. I thought I was broken. Then I learned about the desire spectrum — and everything clicked.
After childbirth I didn’t recognise my body. Here’s how I stopped waiting to go back and started moving forward.
Stretch marks. A C-section scar. Breasts that had fed a human and felt like they belonged to everyone but me. I kept waiting to feel like myself again. Then I realised — this is myself now. And I needed to meet her.
Sex hurt for years and every doctor told me it was in my head. It wasn’t. It was vaginismus.
Every time I tried to have sex, my body slammed the door shut. Doctors said relax. Use more lube. Have a glass of wine. None of them said vaginismus. When I finally got the right diagnosis, everything changed.
My antidepressants saved my life — and killed my sex drive. Here’s what I did about it.
I needed the medication. It kept me alive. But it also made sex feel like nothing. How I talked to my doctor, what options actually exist, and how I found a middle ground.
Menopause took a lot of things. I refused to let it take my desire.
Hot flashes. Vaginal dryness. A body that suddenly felt like a stranger’s. Everyone told me desire fades after 50. They were wrong. What actually happened — and how I reclaimed it.
I didn’t learn to masturbate until I was 28. I’m not joking. And I’m not alone.
Women learning to masturbate late in life. Female pleasure, self discovery, orgasm gap. Body exploration for beginners. Discreet UK delivery. Read the full story.